over and out.

-'he's just not that into you if he's not dating you. hanging out is not dating.'
'ok, there seem to be so many variations to dating, particularly in the early stages of a relationship. so many gray, murky areas of vagueness, mystery, and no questions asked. dudes love this time because thats when they get to pretend they're not really responsible for your feelings. when you ask someone out on a real bonafide date, you're making it official: i'd like to see you alone to find out if we have a romantic future together. in case you need more clues: there's usually a public excursion, a meal, and some hand-holding involved.'
'men, just like women, want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship starts to become serious. one way they do that is by laying claim to it. they actually want to say "im your boyfriend" or "i'd like to be your boyfriend" or "if you ever break up with that other guy who's not your boyfriend, i'd like to be your boyfriend." a man who's really into you is going to want you all to himself. and why wouldnt he, hot stuff?'
'oh, how easy it is for you to forget what its about! let me remind you: its about the guy who wants you, calls you, makes you feel sexy and desired fully. he wants to see you more and more often because every time he sees you, he likes and then loves you more and more. i know. every two weeks, once a month, seeing someone, having a little love and affection may help you get through the day or week or the month-but will it help you geet through a lifetime?'
'from this moment on, right now, as you read this, make this solemn vow about your future romantic relationships: no more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified, and no more undeclared. and if able, try to know someone as best you can before you get naked with them.'
'if you dont know where the relationship is going, its okay to pull over and ask.'

-'he's just not that into you if he's not having sex with you. when men like you, they want to touch you, always.'
'if he were into you, he would be having a hard time keping his paws off you. oh, the simplicity of all! if a man is not trying to undress you, he's not into you.'
'ahh, here comes the big "fear of intimacy" debate. is there such a thing? many, many people are in therapy for it, a lot of self-help books are dedicated to it, a lot of shitty behavior is excused beacuse of it. sure, many people have been hurt in the past, and now have a fear of intimacy. but guess what? if a man is really into you, nothing will stop him from being wiht you-including a fear of intimacy. he may run and get his butt into therapy if there's some serious problem, but he'll never keep you in the dark.'
'the egyptians painted pots about it, the yogis writebooks about it, the jews have made religious laws about it. they all believe that one of the strongest ingredients to a healthy union is sex. one of the great joys in life is that you get to have sex. the last person who should be stopping you from enjoying that is the person you're dating.'
'if you're tempted to spend countless nights just cuddling with someone, buy a puppy.'

-'he's just not into you if he's having sex with someone else. there's never going to be a good excuse for cheating.'
'and in case he tells yo that it just "happened", please remember, cheating doesnt just "happen". its not as accident as in "oops, i just slipped and fell into a sexual relationship with someone else." it was planned and executed with full knowledge that it could end your relationship. know this: if he's sleeping with someone else without your knowledge or encouragement, he is not only behaving like a man who's just not that into you, he's behaving like a man who doesnt even like you all that much.'
'if something is wrong in a relationship, here's a bright, mature idea: talk about it. dont let any man blame you for their infidelity. ever.'
'you cant balme a man for having feelings. you love someone, you break up, you still have feelings. thank god for that really. but having feelings doesnt mean you have to have sex. that required him to take his feeling and use them to be somewhere alone with his beloved, undress her, kiss her, and do all the other things that involved with having sexual intercourse with someone. hooray for feelings. just keep them in your pants.'
'lets call cheating what it is: a complete betrayal of trust.'
'the beginning of two people getting together is such a fragile, tender time. maybe its the last fling before the final committment. if its early in a relationship, it can be hard to know if the guy is just getting something out of his system, and its a one-time thing, or if its a guy who's just a big jerk. thats the thing about dating-you're having intimate experiences with someone who, at the end of the day, you dont know very well. all i can think of is, how sad to be having that conversation in the beginning of things, when everything is supposed to be cozy and snug and people are usually on their best behavior.'
'there is no excuse for cheating. let me say it again. there is no excuse for cheating. now you say it. there is no excuse for cheating.'
'a cheater only cheats himself, because he doesnt get to be with you.'

sometimes, or perhaps most of the time, love does make people blind.
they do, and always will, cloud your judgment.
update the rest of the chapters tmr again.